Comments on: Coffee and Character http://life-love-and-online-dating.com/2009/10/12/coffee-and-character/ Two friends discuss relationships and other mysteries of life. Wed, 09 May 2012 22:37:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: tiffanyl http://life-love-and-online-dating.com/2009/10/12/coffee-and-character/comment-page-1/#comment-8 tiffanyl Mon, 02 Nov 2009 23:51:22 +0000 http://lifeloveandonlinedating.wordpress.com/?p=51#comment-8 Margo, what you say here--like those men who don't want to waste their time--reminds me of the old joke about the man who is caught up in a flood and climbs onto the roof, but turns away help from a boat and a plane because he's confident that God is going to rescue him. After he drowns, he asks God why he didn't save him and God asks him whether he didn't see the boat and plane that he sent. Whether you want to attribute it to God or the universe or mere chance, something out there often offers us something different than what we thought we wanted or needed. The idea that we'll be able to recognize that something in fifteen minutes and move on if it doesn't fit out mold sounds to me like a huge recipe for overlooking some great opportunities in life. Margo, what you say here–like those men who don’t want to waste their time–reminds me of the old joke about the man who is caught up in a flood and climbs onto the roof, but turns away help from a boat and a plane because he’s confident that God is going to rescue him. After he drowns, he asks God why he didn’t save him and God asks him whether he didn’t see the boat and plane that he sent. Whether you want to attribute it to God or the universe or mere chance, something out there often offers us something different than what we thought we wanted or needed. The idea that we’ll be able to recognize that something in fifteen minutes and move on if it doesn’t fit out mold sounds to me like a huge recipe for overlooking some great opportunities in life.

]]> By: Margo http://life-love-and-online-dating.com/2009/10/12/coffee-and-character/comment-page-1/#comment-7 Margo Mon, 02 Nov 2009 17:14:32 +0000 http://lifeloveandonlinedating.wordpress.com/?p=51#comment-7 I am a woman and I like the coffee idea, because it lacks pressure. 20 minutes and you're out of there. Sometimes you don't have sparks with someone and you already have enough friends--if you're not going to date the person, there's no reason to stay in touch. Coffee eliminates the possibility that you may end up sitting through dinner with someone who sent a 5-year old photo and complains about an ex the whole time. Check, please! At the same time, if someone adamantly insists on coffee only in a profile to not waste time, I would steer clear, for all of the reasons mentioned, plus, I would think he's cheap. I am a woman and I like the coffee idea, because it lacks pressure. 20 minutes and you’re out of there. Sometimes you don’t have sparks with someone and you already have enough friends–if you’re not going to date the person, there’s no reason to stay in touch. Coffee eliminates the possibility that you may end up sitting through dinner with someone who sent a 5-year old photo and complains about an ex the whole time. Check, please!

At the same time, if someone adamantly insists on coffee only in a profile to not waste time, I would steer clear, for all of the reasons mentioned, plus, I would think he’s cheap.

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