He was probably trying to be polite. Maybe he heard that women like coffee and I’m sure he has had women tell him, “You’re wasting my time”. I don’t think that he meant to say that it would be a waste of time to talk to a woman if it wasn’t going to lead to sex. I’m not defending him nor do I know what his intentions where when he wrote that. I can’t see his profile but I can see the womens profiles and I often wonder what message they are trying to send.
What message does it send when a woman posts a picture of her and her dog followed by three pictures of just the dog? Her profile says that she is looking for a man who enjoys long walks. I can see where this is going, “Come walk my dog for me”.
Or the woman who is looking for a man who is tall, dark and handsome. Her profile says that she knows it sounds kinda shallow. I disagree, there’s no “kinda” about it. I’ll bet that her ideal first date would be to just meat for coffee. Oops, did I say “meat”, I meant to say “meet”.
The problem is that there is a serious communication gap between men and women. Even you and I don’t always communicate that well. If we did, you would agree with me more often.
And that is the larger issue here. The message that we are trying to send isn’t always the message that is received.
