Comments on: The downside to juggling dates http://life-love-and-online-dating.com/2009/11/13/the-downside-to-juggling-dates/ Two friends discuss relationships and other mysteries of life. Wed, 09 May 2012 22:37:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Mike http://life-love-and-online-dating.com/2009/11/13/the-downside-to-juggling-dates/comment-page-1/#comment-51 Mike Mon, 23 Nov 2009 21:24:34 +0000 http://lifeloveandonlinedating.wordpress.com/?p=155#comment-51 But that is basically proving my point. You were dating three women at once because you expected failure. You may have been searching for a serious relationship (and congratulations for finding one) but you can't say that you were taking all three women seriously if you had such low expectations of them from the beginning. There is a very magnetic connection between givers and takers. It's hard to shake that as it is a very easy trap to fall into. But that is basically proving my point. You were dating three women at once because you expected failure. You may have been searching for a serious relationship (and congratulations for finding one) but you can’t say that you were taking all three women seriously if you had such low expectations of them from the beginning.

There is a very magnetic connection between givers and takers. It’s hard to shake that as it is a very easy trap to fall into.

]]> By: Krakatoa http://life-love-and-online-dating.com/2009/11/13/the-downside-to-juggling-dates/comment-page-1/#comment-50 Krakatoa Mon, 23 Nov 2009 08:45:04 +0000 http://lifeloveandonlinedating.wordpress.com/?p=155#comment-50 [ There’s nothing wrong with juggling but let’s face it, clowns juggle. If you are looking to have fun and not get serious then this may be a good way to accomplish that. But if you are actually dating with the intention of finding someone to share your life with, you might want to think about dating one person at a time. What message are you really sending by rationing out a small piece of your time to someone who your are treating like a pair of pants that will eventually end up in the garbage or at the thrift store? ] [ There’s nothing wrong with juggling but let’s face it, clowns juggle. ] And bad people breathe. Here's why your theory doesn't ALWAYS work in practical application. I dated THREE women at once, earlier this year, because I was sick and tired of women who didn't know what they wanted after a few weeks, to a month or more. I don't like it when a woman who's in her 40's or 50's wastes my time, because when all was said and done, she had/has this ILLUSION that she knows what she wants. I was up front, and open with ALL of the 3 women, and I WAS seriously in search of a long term relationship. When one woman slapped me, and acted like a jerk, I got her out of my life. Her actions were uncalled for. When the other woman showed me that she had more issues than National Geographic, I ended my association with her. And nearly 10 months later, I've been in a long term relationship, which has been with the remaining woman of the 3. I got MUCH more than I bargained for. My G/F is the most loving, devoted and generous woman I've met in my lifetime. She's happy, and so am I. WE made the right choices FOR US, and we agree that we did things the right way. Decisions were made along the way that reinforce our conclusions. I firmly believe that a giver has to be with a giver. And we are. [ There’s nothing wrong with juggling but let’s face it, clowns juggle. If you are looking to have fun and not get serious then this may be a good way to accomplish that. But if you are actually dating with the intention of finding someone to share your life with, you might want to think about dating one person at a time. What message are you really sending by rationing out a small piece of your time to someone who your are treating like a pair of pants that will eventually end up in the garbage or at the thrift store? ]

[ There’s nothing wrong with juggling but let’s face it, clowns juggle. ]

And bad people breathe.

Here’s why your theory doesn’t ALWAYS work in practical application.

I dated THREE women at once, earlier this year, because I was sick and tired of women who didn’t know what they wanted after a few weeks, to a month or more. I don’t like it when a woman who’s in her 40’s or 50’s wastes my time, because when all was said and done, she had/has this ILLUSION that she knows what she wants.

I was up front, and open with ALL of the 3 women, and I WAS seriously in search of a long term relationship. When one woman slapped me, and acted like a jerk, I got her out of my life. Her actions were uncalled for. When the other woman showed me that she had more issues than National Geographic, I ended my association with her.

And nearly 10 months later, I’ve been in a long term relationship, which has been with the remaining woman of the 3.

I got MUCH more than I bargained for. My G/F is the most loving, devoted and generous woman I’ve met in my lifetime. She’s happy, and so am I. WE made the right choices FOR US, and we agree that we did things the right way. Decisions were made along the way that reinforce our conclusions.

I firmly believe that a giver has to be with a giver. And we are.

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