Seriously, Tiffany, THIS is your argument? I just want to point out that Greg Behrendt, author of He’s Just Not That Into You
The advice that people get on dating, whether it’s from a comedy writer or friends, is typically what causes relationships to fail or not develop in the first place. We’ve all heard these little gems of wisdom but we don’t think about the message they really send. The most popular advice for when someone gives you their number is, “Don’t call too soon, it makes you seem desperate” which send the message, “Their just not that into you”. Or the ever popular, “You have to play hard to get” which send the message, “Their just not that into you”. The advice that I hear from my guy friends on how to get a woman is, “You have to be a little mean to her, women like that” which sends the message, “He’s just not that into you”. Are you starting to see a pattern here?
So, the truth is not that if a guy wants to call…he calls. He probably wants to but the majority of advice that he gets is to play hard to get or don’t act like you are interested. Women do the same thing. It’s beautiful irony that we think the best way to show someone that you are interested is to act like you are not. Heck, I could write a whole book about that and call it, “He’s just not that into you”. Women would buy up every copy trying to figure out where they went wrong after doing exactly what their friends advised them to do. “I acted like I wasn’t interested and he still never called”, …Duh. Now go brush yourself off and get back in the saddle so you can repeat this process and wonder why it didn’t work THIS time.
I’ve actually had a few women tell me that they wanted to call me but didn’t because they were taking advice from their friends. What am I supposed to think when I ask a woman out and she says that she is too busy but will call me when she is free and she never calls? I think that she is telling the truth, she is too busy and I would just be bothering her by calling. Honesty is simply not a widely accepted concept when it comes to dating. It’s asinine but we are taught that we have to play the game rather than just communicate honestly. With this in mind, it doesn’t matter what I say because her natural assumption is going to be that I am lying.
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