I am a hopeless romantic at heart and, at the moment, I am feeling a bit jaded. But failure after failure leads me to this point where I simply sit back and think, “My God, it shouldn’t be this hard”. I don’ t think that I am asking for too much by any means and I would think that women would want the same thing.
Why is it so hard to find someone to team up with on this journey we call life? Someone to laugh with (it’s always funnier when there’s two of you), someone to listen to and talk to and know on an intimate level. So many times throughout my day I find something interesting or funny and wish I had someone to share it with. I find myself sitting on the couch watching television and looking at the empty space next to me. Or wanting to go out to dinner and not have a table for one.
I think that we expect too much and have this idea in our heads about what our ideal mate is like and it’s impossible to see beyond that. We get in our own way and move on too quickly without giving people an honest chance, without even trying to get to know who they are inside. We play games to get what we want rather than ask for it. We get advice from members of the same sex on how to relate to members of the opposite sex. And we take that advice, going against our own judgment and gut feelings. If you want to know what a man wants don’t ask your female friends, ask him. Doesn’t that make more sense. And yes, it is that simple.
I don’t mean to sound like my life is empty and I am miserable being alone. I’m not. I enjoy my life and I am perfectly comfortable being single. I do, however, get frustrated by the fact that I know so many single women who want the same thing, someone to share their life with. Women who make excuses like, “I’m focusing on my career” or “It’s too hard to date when I have kids to raise”.
Really? Because I have those same things going on. I’m not looking for someone to take care of me. I’m not looking to be a burden, I would hope to be an enjoyable addition in a womans life, an asset. It seems like a negative outlook on dating to see it as a burden or one more thing to take up her precious time. Time that she could be spending complaining to her friends that she can’t find a good man. When the truth is that she could have what she want if she could just get out of her own way.
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