A lot of women say that they want a nice guy who treats them well but they don’t mean it. What they really want is that rebel bad boy who will make their life interesting because “If he loves me enough he will change”. It becomes a challenge for them to try to mold this womanizing jerk into a caring, compassionate person.
My cell phone contact list has reached its capacity of women I have dated who have all uttered the same words, “I want to just be friends” and I know exactly what that means. “I want to be friends because you are the kind of guy who can pick up the pieces when I fail to convert a man who just got out of prison for selling crack into a nice guy like you.” Women want a nice guy but they want one that they made themselves from a misogynist.
I’m sorry but I already have my quota of women who I’ve tried to have a relationship with and they walked away. They still call me a dozen times a year crying over the most recent dating disaster and asking, “Why can’t I find a single guy who’s just like you?” Well, I think I am a single guy who’s just like me but that’s not really in demand, is it? But it is nice to know that they are trying so hard to be in a relationship when the excuse they used to get rid of me was, “I’m not ready for a relationship”.
These women are suspicious from the onset and don’t feel like they deserve to be treated well. That’s worth repeating, they don’t feel like they deserve to be treated well. However, if they started a relationship with a guy who is a complete jerk and stood by his side long enough to convert him into a nice guy then they would feel like they deserve to be treated well. They would feel like they have paid their dues. The problem is that just doesn’t happen. Why would it? Why would a guy who attracts women by being a jerk change if it is working for him?
So, I’ve decided that I’m not going to waste my time being a counselor for these women anymore. Instead I am going to compile a list of my ex girlfriends and hand it out as a parting gift for future women who just want to be friends. I’m sorry, I don’t want to be friends with you but I have formed a support group to help you through your failed attempts to make the man of your dreams out of a man who is a nightmare. I’ve grown tired of watching women torture themselves by trying the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.
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