If I wanted to expand my construction business by taking on a partner who wanted to do the same type of work and had a similar business philosophy, the most efficient way to do that would be to interview candidates. The best way to find candidates would be to place an ad in the paper or possibly online.
Of course, I could find potential business partners “Organically” at the grocery store or bowling alley but that would probably take a lot longer. The bottom line is that people who are looking for work, check the want ads to find employers who might have similar interests.
With online dating, the same principle applies. I’m not suggesting that finding a partner in life is like finding an employee. I’m just saying that, if meeting someone “organically” isn’t working out, it’s nice top have an alternative. Let’s face it, I’m not going to live forever and meeting someone “organically” takes a little longer.
I would prefer to meet someone the “old fashioned” way like all of the classic storybooks but that’s just not practical in todays world. I don’t like this but the fact is that most people are very busy and dating becomes more of a job interview than a natural event. One of the most common sentences that I have seen on womens dating profiles is, “Don’t waste my time” of you don’t meet certain requirements.
So, Tiffany, while you may find that meeting people organically works best for you, there are many women who find it a complete waste of time. At least, if the people don’t meet their requirements.
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