So, you find yourself attracted to someone and you want to make you feelings known. But how do you do that without being insulting? I’m not talking about just a sexual attraction. I mean, for whatever reason, you find yourself drawn to someone. It could be from something they said, the way they smile or their moral views. Something about this person is drawing your attention like a magnet and, if you don’t say something, you will never know what could have been.
What you say, to make initial contact, is critically important. Apparently you really do only get one chance to make a first impression. Tiffany compares this to being hit in the head with a 2X4. Personally, I don’t hold grudges. If someone accidentally hit me in the head with a 2X4 I would take the time to realize whether they know the proper way to handle a 2X4.
Is calling someone “sexy” the verbal equivalent of hitting them with a 2X4? Possibly. I mean, there are a lot of sexual harassment cases in our courtrooms. But why does that come across as being an insult rather than a compliment? This may be one of those simple differences between men and women. I think most men would love to hear a woman tell them that they are “sexy”. I certainly wouldn’t sue someone for calling me “sexy”. Honestly, for the life of me, I don’t know why a woman would take offense to being called “sexy”
Now let’s face reality here. People want to be attractive and get noticed. Look around you and you will see that there are businesses that thrive on this notion. The popularity of laser hair removal, cosmetics, cosmetic surgery and tanning booths is sending a very clear message of vanity. So, is it insulting to let someone know that they are attractive? It shouldn’t be. Since when did it become and insult to let someone know that they are what others aspire to?
The thing about dating is that it all comes down to your mentality, on how you see it. I have had this wonderful dating experience which might be quite surprising for many people who read this.