I’ve seen so many sites offering coaching of some sort for your on line dating profile that it’s causing me to be concerned about the profiles I like. Did I actually just read something that an amazing woman wrote or did I read some propaganda from a professional dating coach? I’ve seen articles on what to omit from your profile, how to use humor to get people to like you and services from professional coaches to make the perfect profile. Wouldn’t the perfect profile be what YOU wanted it to be? At what point is this considered false advertising?
I have the same concerns with this that I have with water bras, push up bras, those jeans that lift your butt, girdles and hair colorant. Okay, I understand that you want to make a good impression to try to get a man. But, at some point this new relationship is going to get intimate and then what’s the plan? I mean, you’ve landed a guy who likes funny blond chicks and now he’s about to find out that you have run out of jokes that you read, your bra contains 30% water and you aren’t actually blond. But that’s not the bad news. The bad news is that you have just started a relationship that is based on deception and manipulation. The good news is that you are probably going to get dumped real soon which will free you up to find a man who likes you for who you are. And the guy may not even be shallow, he might be a decent guy who is thinking, “If she lied about her cup size and hair color, what else is she lying about?” Then, he becomes suspicious and rightfully so. I mean, isn’t this the equivalent of lying? It certainly is deceptive.
It’s one thing to want to look your best on a date, THAT I understand. But don’t take it to the extent that it isn’t actually YOUR best, it’s someone else’s best. Take a shower, shave, put on nice clothes and maybe some makeup. If you start trying to alter physical characteristics or genetics, you’re taking it too far. But, I’m not even a big fan of high heeled shoes. I can’t think of a woman who would enjoy meeting a tall, handsome man only to find out that he was just wearing thick shoes.
The thing is that there is a guy out there who wants to be with a real person. If you like pina coladas and getting caught in the rain, say so. Don’t worry about it being too cheesy, the right man for you will love that cheesy line. Also, most men can tell a disproportionate figure when they see it so your water bra probably isn’t fooling anyone. I don’t know a single woman who can’t get a date because she is too short, too brunette or her breasts are too small. Being too vain, shallow or fake is an entirely different story.
Yes, it’s a war of smarts. You grow false breasts and ultimately men will size you up just by your voice on the telephone. Go ahead, try your best!
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