I’ve seen websites offering DVD’s that explain how to become a “player” and other sites offering stories and tips on how to pick up women. Isn’t this basically saying, “This is who you have to be to get this type of woman”? If you have to learn skills and techniques and study what to say, it just seems so fake. It certainly doesn’t seem like a way to get someone to like you for who you are.
I was out shopping one time and I saw this guy who used the same line on every woman who walked by, “Girl, you so fine…how old are you”? I thought to myself, “He would take anybody who showed interest”. It must be hard for a girl to feel special when she just watched the guy say the same thing to at least five other women. But he was simply playing the numbers. If you throw enough darts in the dark you are bound to hit a bullseye at some point.
But is it really a bullseye? If the goal is to have relations, maybe. But if the goal is to have a relationship, certainly not. I can’t see that being on a Hallmark card, “Out of hundreds of women, you are the one who was dumb enough to say yes” but it happens. Surprisingly, women do respond to this more often than you think.
Internet dating sites receive less than a quarter of the amount of hits that sites offering “casual encounters” do. What does that tell you? It can’t be just men who are on these sites. Women do want sex for many different reasons. An entire book was written on Why Women Have Sex
So, being a “Mack” or a player or a womanizer…whatever you want to call it…is more about being observant than having “game”. It’s about paying attention to women and actually listening to what they are telling you, verbally or not. The beautiful irony is that I would give the same advice for someone looking to have a deep, meaningful and lasting relationship.
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