I would assume that over fifty percent of all relationships end. I base this assumption on the divorce rate and the fact that not all relationships lead to marriage. So, at some point, someone decides that they want out. This is a tough area for me with my “I can make it work” attitude. But there has to be a point in a bad relationship where most people would decide to get out.
One thing that I have heard Tiffany say (many times) is “Cut your losses”. I struggle with this sentence because I think that relationships should be explored. I don’t feel like I have “lost” anything by exploring a relationship and trying to make it work. Well, maybe my mind. But, I wasn’t using it anyway if I chose to stay in a bad relationship. If anything, I feel like I may have lost some time. However, in order to explore a relationship, you have to invest some time. There isn’t much that you can tell about a person on a first date.
This may be different for each person. As a hopeless romantic, I tend to see myself riding off into the sunset with my new found love and living happily ever after. I don’t even think about the possibility of the captain coming over the intercom and saying, “Please fasten your seat belts and put your trays in the upright position, we are coming in for a landing”. But it does happen. And worse, it comes as a surprise to me in spite of all the gleaming red flags.
Obviously, I’m not the shining example of knowing when to get out. To me, red flags are often something that I see as a personal challenge. A better approach might be to know what you want and be able to assess whether you have found it.
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