Comments on: The Quest for Whatever http://life-love-and-online-dating.com/2010/06/22/the-quest-for-whatever/ Two friends discuss relationships and other mysteries of life. Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:08:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Margo http://life-love-and-online-dating.com/2010/06/22/the-quest-for-whatever/comment-page-1/#comment-2508 Margo Thu, 24 Jun 2010 13:11:17 +0000 http://life-love-and-online-dating.com/?p=535#comment-2508 Six months ago I probably would have disagreed with but after reading a great book called "Marry Him" (a case for "settling" - but really not - written for unmarried women who have impossibly "high standards") I'm 100% in agreement that a) you might not know what you're chasing and b) stop instead to reflect and you might find it. We can find joy when we put all the "stuff" aside and LIVE EVERY MOMENT. What a paradigm shift! It's the journey, not the destination. Some relationships take endless work and some are so simple that you think maybe something is missing. Stop analyzing. What matters is that you appreciate the people in your life and not concern yourself so much with the outcome. Will a relationship continue? Should you get married? Should you get divorced? Will you be lonely? Stop thinking of the "what if" possibilities and live your life and have fun. All we know for sure are the minutes we spend right now. Make them count. You'll know when it's time to end something. You'll know when something is starting. Make everything in between as fun as you can. Thanks for a great perspective Tiff. Six months ago I probably would have disagreed with but after reading a great book called “Marry Him” (a case for “settling” – but really not – written for unmarried women who have impossibly “high standards”) I’m 100% in agreement that a) you might not know what you’re chasing and b) stop instead to reflect and you might find it. We can find joy when we put all the “stuff” aside and LIVE EVERY MOMENT. What a paradigm shift! It’s the journey, not the destination.

Some relationships take endless work and some are so simple that you think maybe something is missing. Stop analyzing. What matters is that you appreciate the people in your life and not concern yourself so much with the outcome. Will a relationship continue? Should you get married? Should you get divorced? Will you be lonely? Stop thinking of the “what if” possibilities and live your life and have fun. All we know for sure are the minutes we spend right now. Make them count. You’ll know when it’s time to end something. You’ll know when something is starting. Make everything in between as fun as you can.

Thanks for a great perspective Tiff.

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