When it comes to playing games, numbers don’t lie. I’d like to say that I am all for the honest and direct approach but I’ve seen the statistics and games have a higher success rate. I’ve talked about this before when I wrote a response to the book “he’s just not that into you”. Let’s face it, there’s no sure way to tell if he is or isn’t. If he doesn’t call you right away, he may not like you or he may just not want to appear too interested or desperate. Why? Because, if he appears too interested you will lose interest. And that is simply the way it works.
I was in the book store looking for a credible book about relationships. Keep in mind that I was not in the “fiction” section, I was in the section about relationships. Lining the shelves was actual books on how to land a man or a woman, how to keep his or her interest. That comes as a shock to me. Shouldn’t it be as simple as, “be yourself and the right person will connect with you”? But it’s not that simple. There are rules to follow. “Rules”? Games have rules, relationships shouldn’t.
The magazine rack is filled with headlines on how to make a relationship work. “Make” it work? You mean, it doesn’t just work, you have to force it? I’ve seen articles about “How to tell what he really wants”. You can’t just ask him? If you asked me, I would tell you. It’s because they know that you can’t just walk up to someone and say, “I like you” and expect to get anything other than a crazy look.
We are bombarded with propaganda on how to behave like someone else to get into a relationship with someone who is behaving like someone else. How can that not end in anything other than disaster? At some point, you will have to get back to being yourself and so will the other person involved. At that point, you might as well have simply chosen a partner at random. After all, you simply don’t know what you are getting as long as you continue to use someone else’s personality as the bait.
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