Life, Love and Online Dating

I was at the local home center looking for seeds to start my garden when one of the store workers asked me if I needed any help.   I wasn’t entirely certain what I wanted to grow in this garden, I was going to make that decision based on what I saw.   However, I rarely pass up on an opportunity to make a joke so I asked, “Do you have any bacon seeds?”   I almost felt bad for the poor man as he meticulously scanned the shelves in search of these mythical seeds.   Knowing that I could possibly get him to realize what he was doing if I took it up a notch, I added “oh and egg seeds too”.   He deserves an award of some sort, that’s for sure.   His response to my ridiculousness was, “I see egg PLANT seeds”.

As much as I would love to be able to grow my own bacon from seeds, it simply doesn’t work.   No matter how much I water them, no matter how good the soil, bacon simply doesn’t grow from seeds.  Trust me when I tell you that it doesn’t work for money either (what a waste of a dollar).   It just seems like it should work, I did everything right.   But there’s something about the way that a seed is built that gives it the potential to become a plant if the conditions are right.

Of course, I like to try to turn everything into an analogy, especially if I can make it relate to relationships.   Much like bacon, a relationship won’t develop unless the potential is there and the conditions are right.  I’ve tried to cultivate a romantic relationship out of strong friendship and it ended up like my money tree idea.   Sure, I still had a dollar but it didn’t turn into a tree. The friendship survived but it didn’t blossom into the relationship I was looking for.

The French call it, “Je ne sais quoi”.   Which, is just a fancy way of saying “I don’t know what”.   There is that special quality that creates the attraction it takes to make a romantic relationship.   As much as it makes sense to me that friends can become more if the conditions are right, it simply takes more than friendship.  I’ve never been able to fully understand what that is and it may not be just one thing.   It may be a combination of factors that give a friendship the same potential to grow that a seed has.  I suppose the best bet is to simply enjoy the bacon for what it is and not try to get it to become a tree.  But, at the same time, any good relationship should start from a solid friendship.  It’s very confusing.

Tags: fantasy, friends, relationships