I’m almost certain that Tiffany held back on her post about the “alleged” ten reasons that you shouldn’t date (Or, as I like to call it, “How the Grinch stole dating”). I’m sure she can think of way more than ten. Like, Your date happens to fall on a day that ends with the letter ‘y’. However, I have a more optimistic outlook on dating and think that it should be a light-hearted event in which you decide whether or not you want to do it again.
A while back, I did a post about being on the wrong page. So, not surprisingly, I have to disagree with many of Tiffany’s reasons that she thinks you shouldn’t date. I think that honesty and being on the same page in life is more important than whether Tiffany thinks you should be dating. Now, I will agree that if you are still obsessing over a past relationship you probably will make a horrible date. It isn’t much fun to sit across the table from someone who can’t talk about anything but a former lover and what went wrong. It makes me feel like a shrink who should be getting paid for this.
However, the majority of that list meshes quite well with my philosophy that people should date others who are on the same page. If you’re going through a messy divorce and happen to meet someone who is going through the same situation, you may find that person to be an invaluable source of support. And that may lead to a long-lasting marriage.
What about two people who hate being alone and don’t know what to do without a companion? Some people are actually social or like to participate in activities that require two people. Have you ever tried playing tennis or volleyball by yourself? Tiffany would probably suggest that you try a different sport like golf or darts. Like you need to learn to be alone. Which I might agree with if we were in some post-apocalyptic era and you were the only person left on the planet. But, the last time I looked outside, I saw other people. Some of them, I’m sure, enjoy tennis.
I know many single mothers who struggle to make ends meet. It’s not easy to run a household on a single income. But I don’t think that means they aren’t allowed to date. Times are tough, not many of us have a lot of extra money. Dating doesn’t have to be expensive, the beach or the parks are free. If your financial situation qualifies as a “Crisis”, you may have better things to worry about than dating. But I don’t think that you need to stop dating because you don’t have money. You may find others who are in the same boat or someone who has some extra money and enjoys your company.
