Posted in dating drama on Aug 14th, 2010
“It’s not you, it’s me”. That has the stigma of being a lie used to let someone down easily. But there may be a lot more truth to that classic line than you realize. Breaking up is typically not easy. At least not for the person who is being dumped. The person [...]
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Posted in dating drama, relationships on Jun 27th, 2010
When it comes to playing games, numbers don’t lie. I’d like to say that I am all for the honest and direct approach but I’ve seen the statistics and games have a higher success rate. I’ve talked about this before when I wrote a response to the book “he’s just not that into you”. [...]
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Posted in dating drama, relationships on Jun 12th, 2010
I would assume that over fifty percent of all relationships end. I base this assumption on the divorce rate and the fact that not all relationships lead to marriage. So, at some point, someone decides that they want out. This is a tough area for me with my “I can make it work” [...]
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Posted in dating drama, friend zone, men on Apr 4th, 2010
We’ve been getting comments from men asking for advice on avoiding the “friend zone”, and I’ve got good news for them. You’re not doing anything wrong. There’s no such thing as the “friend zone”. At least, not in the sense that men seem to dread it, as a big black hole waiting to swallow up [...]
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Recently, I entered into a bit of debate with my sister on my personal blog about the value of romantic delusions. Of course, “delusions” is my construction; she wasn’t actually arguing that delusions were valuable, but that what I termed “delusions” sometimes came true, if only for a moment. Even if girls who lived in [...]
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Posted in dating drama on Feb 26th, 2010
In her recent post, Tiffany posed an interesting question about adults having a “committee” to decide whether they like someone. I’d have to say that I think this occurs as a result of repeated failure in dating and relationships. When we start to lose faith in our own decision making we lean on [...]
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Posted in dating drama, men, relationships, women on Feb 23rd, 2010
Don’t get me wrong. I like womanizers. Of course, most women enjoy them in the moment–if we didn’t, they wouldn’t be so successful. Hell, we wouldn’t have a name for them. But the tide turns. Womanizers don’t stay. And then a lot of women get angry that the man hasn’t kept all those promises he [...]
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Posted in dating drama, relationships on Feb 11th, 2010
It’s true that most of us drift along in traffic, not really noting the specifics of most of the cars around us. I’m as guilty of that as Mike apparently is. I can’t agree, though, about those stand-out cars. The cars that “pop” for me on the road aren’t beat up or noisy; the cars [...]
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So, you find yourself attracted to someone and you want to make you feelings known. But how do you do that without being insulting? I’m not talking about just a sexual attraction. I mean, for whatever reason, you find yourself drawn to someone. It could be from something they said, the way they smile or [...]
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Posted in dating drama, relationships on Jan 10th, 2010
“It’s the thought that counts”? Really, Mike? That seems to be what you’re saying. But in the end, isn’t it really the outcome that counts? If someone hits you in the head with a 2 x 4 on a job site, your injury is going to be the same whether it was intentional or accidental. [...]
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