Two friends discuss relationships and other mysteries of life.
Posted in dating drama, relationships on Dec 28th, 2009
Anyone who has a “wish list” for a potential partner is asking for trouble. I’ve said before that I think the biggest problem with “finding love” in today’s society is that we try to shop for mates like we shop for a new dress or a juicy grapefruit. Looking for love, in my book, is [...]
Posted in dating drama, relationships on Dec 14th, 2009
Of course, she just wasn’t that into me. But, the reason for that is what I think is the more interesting part. I wasn’t what she was used to. She wasn’t used to being around someone who didn’t “need” her for something. She didn’t know what to do with that. How do you feel [...]
Posted in dating drama, men, women on Dec 7th, 2009
I heard an advertisement on the radio today that fell in line with what Tiffany is trying to encourage people to believe. The Ad had a woman talking about raising her kids and said something like, “Even the big one I call my husband”. This is part of the common view that I am trying [...]
Posted in dating drama, men, relationships, women on Dec 5th, 2009
We make decisions based on the information that we have. When that information is a lie, it skews the decisions that we make. A woman who I had been dating for a couple months told me that she needed space. She said that she was feeling overwhelmed and didn’t know if she wanted [...]
Posted in dating drama, men, relationships, women on Dec 1st, 2009
That’s a nice spin you put on it, Mike, but you seem to forget that I was there. I did, in fact, “accuse” you of that same kind of suffocating behavior I mentioned in my last post. I think it was the night you called me complaining that the woman who had asked you for [...]
Posted in dating drama, men, relationships, women on Dec 1st, 2009
Tiffany, this is one of those areas where the memory of those needy…I mean, “Nice” guys that you have dated is so deeply etched into your brain that you project that behavior on other people and can’t see past it. You look for this pattern until you find it. You’ve accused me [...]
Posted in dating drama, men, relationships, women on Nov 30th, 2009
Mike, I can’t help thinking that maybe what these women you describe want is a man who is like you are as a friend . If you’re like most “nice” guys (and I have reason to believe you are), that person bears little or no resemblance to who you are in a relationship…or even when [...]
Posted in dating drama, relationships, women on Nov 30th, 2009
A lot of women say that they want a nice guy who treats them well but they don’t mean it. What they really want is that rebel bad boy who will make their life interesting because “If he loves me enough he will change”. It becomes a challenge for them to try to [...]
Posted in dating drama, relationships on Nov 23rd, 2009
In Mike’s last post, he questioned whether love was really love if it went unreturned. It’s a question I’ve heard debated many times, but I think it’s a silly one. Love isn’t dependent on getting what you want; love is the opposite of “what’s in it for me?”
I think this question is a reflection of [...]
Posted in dating drama, relationships, single parent dating on Nov 20th, 2009
No, I’m not talking about the “right place, right time” sort of timing. I’m talking about realistic expectations about the development of a relationship. Mike’s written two posts recently that contained passing references to time frames that twisted my brain into knots. One was his attempt at getting inside a woman’s head [...]
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