Life, Love and Online Dating

You may recall that I’m not a big fan of online dating.  I did sign up for an online dating service once, about the same time that we started this blog, and with a lot of fortitude and chanting of “give it a chance…give it a chance…” under my breath, I was able to hold out [...]

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I don’t mean that you should know what you want in a partner or in a relationship; I definitely don’t advocate checklist-style mate-shopping.  No, the idea that it’s important to know what you’re after–something that should have been a no-brainer but that I hadn’t consciously considered before–came to me while I was reading Lori Gottleib’s [...]

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We don’t form relationships anymore: we shop for mates, or friends with benefits or one-night stands.  We scan for what we want, not even registering the prospects as human beings with their own hopes and desires and feelings unless they look like something we might want to toss in the cart.   Speed dating is mate-shopping [...]

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One of my favorite lines from Steven Wright, “I put instant coffee in the microwave and actually went back in time”.   I think it points out the absurdity of our own invention.  We live in a world where faster is better.  Who wants to wait five whole minutes for a pot of coffee to [...]

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I’ve seen websites offering DVD’s that explain how to become a “player” and other sites offering stories and tips on how to pick up women.   Isn’t this basically saying, “This is who you have to be to get this type of woman”?   If you have to learn skills and techniques and study what [...]

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Mike made some good points in his recent post about “white lies” on dating sites.  In fact, many of them relate closely to the issues I raised in my post about the worst idea in online dating history.  I would (for once) agree with him completely if it weren’t for one thing: he’s lying.
No, really.  [...]

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I’ve seen so many sites offering coaching of some sort for your on line dating profile that it’s causing me to be concerned about the profiles I like.   Did I actually just read something that an amazing woman wrote or did I read some propaganda from a professional dating coach?   I’ve seen articles [...]

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Not even for employees.  Mike’s recent analogy between interviewing for a prospective business partner or employee and “interviewing” for a prospective life partner is apt.  Unfortunately, it overlooks one very important point:  interviewing doesn’t work.  You know that I don’t believe interview-style dating works, but now I’m going one step further.  Traditional interviewing doesn’t work [...]

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If I wanted to expand my construction business by taking on a partner who wanted to do the same type of work and had a similar business philosophy, the most efficient way to do that would be to interview candidates.  The best way to find candidates would be to place an ad in the paper or possibly online.
Of [...]

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Advice about constructing an “effective” online dating profile abounds on the Internet, and the concept leaves me scratching my head just a bit.  So does the pervasive idea that “everyone” posts only his or her best pictures.  I strongly suspect that I’m in the minority on this one, but I can’t see the upside in [...]

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