Life, Love and Online Dating

Mike made some good points in his recent post about “white lies” on dating sites.  In fact, many of them relate closely to the issues I raised in my post about the worst idea in online dating history.  I would (for once) agree with him completely if it weren’t for one thing: he’s lying.
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I’ve seen so many sites offering coaching of some sort for your on line dating profile that it’s causing me to be concerned about the profiles I like.   Did I actually just read something that an amazing woman wrote or did I read some propaganda from a professional dating coach?   I’ve seen articles [...]

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Not even for employees.  Mike’s recent analogy between interviewing for a prospective business partner or employee and “interviewing” for a prospective life partner is apt.  Unfortunately, it overlooks one very important point:  interviewing doesn’t work.  You know that I don’t believe interview-style dating works, but now I’m going one step further.  Traditional interviewing doesn’t work [...]

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If I wanted to expand my construction business by taking on a partner who wanted to do the same type of work and had a similar business philosophy, the most efficient way to do that would be to interview candidates.  The best way to find candidates would be to place an ad in the paper or possibly online.
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Advice about constructing an “effective” online dating profile abounds on the Internet, and the concept leaves me scratching my head just a bit.  So does the pervasive idea that “everyone” posts only his or her best pictures.  I strongly suspect that I’m in the minority on this one, but I can’t see the upside in [...]

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Reportedly,  SugarRomance.org has a great new offering in the online dating arena–the personal marketing consultant to help pitch you to other members online moderator to help “keep it real”.  It’s a fascinating concept, really, having a stranger step in and tell you how best to present yourself (or even make the presentation on your behalf) [...]

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I mentioned in an earlier post that, despite my misgivings, I’d registered for an online dating service last month.  I was a bit dismayed by many of the messages I received, but there was one in particular that struck me immediately and has become a sort of shorthand for all of the inappropriate comments strange [...]

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Mike, I think this whole “too many choices” thing takes us right back to the issue of how we look at other people.  You’ve made the argument in favor of weeding people out in advance, but I think that’s the very same mentality that leads people to think of one another as “choices” rather than [...]

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That crossing out rules thing Mike mentioned in his last post is exactly what I was talking about earlier this week when I suggested that maybe a lot of us had a tendency to give new relationships more of a chance than they deserved.  The effort to make it work moves into the foreground, stealthily [...]

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Brat.
I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with meeting for coffee, and you know it. I’m talking about the significant number of men (maybe women do this, too–I never see their profiles, so I don’t know) who explicitly announce that they want to meet for coffee so as not to waste their time on someone [...]

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