Two friends discuss relationships and other mysteries of life.
Posted in relationships on Feb 24th, 2010
Let’s face it, for many reasons, cheating sucks. Maybe not as much for the cheater as the one who is being cheated on but it still sucks. Cheating is a violation of trust and intimacy. It can leave the other partner feeling betrayed and, in some cases, inadequate.
I’ve heard it said that, “If [...]
Posted in dating drama, men, relationships, women on Feb 23rd, 2010
Don’t get me wrong. I like womanizers. Of course, most women enjoy them in the moment–if we didn’t, they wouldn’t be so successful. Hell, we wouldn’t have a name for them. But the tide turns. Womanizers don’t stay. And then a lot of women get angry that the man hasn’t kept all those promises he [...]
Posted in dating services, relationships, women on Feb 19th, 2010
I’ve seen websites offering DVD’s that explain how to become a “player” and other sites offering stories and tips on how to pick up women. Isn’t this basically saying, “This is who you have to be to get this type of woman”? If you have to learn skills and techniques and study what [...]
Posted in Uncategorized, men, relationships, women on Feb 18th, 2010
What I didn’t know was that full-grown adults–not college kids in their early twenties with one foot in their parents’ homes but thirty-something professionals with careers and condos and supposed lives of their own–were still looking to their friends to hold up numerical scores while their dates “performed”.
Posted in relationships, women on Feb 16th, 2010
A couple of months ago, I met a man I wasn’t particularly interested in. Actually, that happens all the time. What makes this man worth mentioning was that I was pretty interested in the life he was leading. It looked a lot like the life I had in the good days of my marriage, when my family was involved in our community and my husband and I spent a lot of time actively parenting and younger people in the neighborhood came to us for help and advice. In short, it looked a lot like a life I’d already been happy in, a life where I’d found my true heart.
Posted in men, relationships on Feb 14th, 2010
Men seem to see competition everywhere. Maybe it’s in their genes; maybe on some deep, subconscious level they’re always barefoot and sweaty in an amphitheater somewhere hoping their chain mail holds out.
But the reality is that to be in competition with someone, you have to be chasing the same goal–and that’s something men seem [...]
Posted in dating drama, relationships on Feb 11th, 2010
It’s true that most of us drift along in traffic, not really noting the specifics of most of the cars around us. I’m as guilty of that as Mike apparently is. I can’t agree, though, about those stand-out cars. The cars that “pop” for me on the road aren’t beat up or noisy; the cars [...]
Posted in relationships on Feb 3rd, 2010
As I was driving home today, it occurred to me that there must be thousands of other cars that I come across in a day but none of them really stand out. There’s traffic in my lane, oncoming traffic and traffic down the side streets that I pay little attention to. There [...]
Posted in Uncategorized, dating drama, gender differences, relationships on Jan 17th, 2010
So, you find yourself attracted to someone and you want to make you feelings known. But how do you do that without being insulting? I’m not talking about just a sexual attraction. I mean, for whatever reason, you find yourself drawn to someone. It could be from something they said, the way they smile or [...]
Posted in dating services, online dating, relationships on Jan 14th, 2010
Not even for employees. Mike’s recent analogy between interviewing for a prospective business partner or employee and “interviewing” for a prospective life partner is apt. Unfortunately, it overlooks one very important point: interviewing doesn’t work. You know that I don’t believe interview-style dating works, but now I’m going one step further. Traditional interviewing doesn’t work [...]
