Life, Love and Online Dating

In his most recent post, Mike seems to suggest that we should determine whether or not a man is assertive by what he’s achieved in life.  To some degree, I agree with him:  for instance, he talks a lot about being a good provider, and in my mind a man who is not assertive CAN’T [...]

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If you don’t already know this about me, it may come as a bit of a surprise:  I’m not a fan of marriage.  I do believe that if you get married, you should be serious about it, and that it’s too easy to get divorced…but the simple fact that it IS so easy to get [...]

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1. You’re Still Fantasizing about Getting Back with Your Ex. It’s not fair to the person sitting across the table from you, trying to live in that moment with you, if you’re not there.  And it’s pointless, anyway.  Friends may tell you that you have to “get back out there” to get the ex out [...]

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Sometimes Mike and I seem to be speaking two very different languages, but I don’t think it’s because he uses blue type and I use pink.  I think it’s just that we’re two very different people with very different ideas about things.  Today, I encountered one of those differences that proves that differing views don’t [...]

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A few days ago, Mike pointed out that no relationship stands a chance if the people in it aren’t motivated to make it work.  Both people.  He’s right, and frankly I’m glad to hear him say it, because you probably all know by now that Mike is no stranger to the belief that he alone [...]

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Tiffany once told me that physical intimacy is like a placebo, an illusion of real intimacy.   I’ll be the first to admit that I immediately thought she was wrong and just being…girlie.   How much more intimate can you be than being “intimate”?   However, my obsessive brain and habitual recreational thinking lead me [...]

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You may recall that I’m not a big fan of online dating.  I did sign up for an online dating service once, about the same time that we started this blog, and with a lot of fortitude and chanting of “give it a chance…give it a chance…” under my breath, I was able to hold out [...]

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In his last post, Mike said, “But, if you are simply filling a void with fantasy it makes no sense to me that the fantasy has to be a real person.”  I guess he’s right, but that’s a big conditional.  I think what his statement really means is that he and I differ about something [...]

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A crush is fun and can inspire us to live better.  I noticed that I have a tendency to develop crushes on fiction characters.   One of my longest lasting crushes is Dorothy Boyd from the movie Jerry Maguire.   It’s not necessarily any physical characteristic that draws me in, it’s her personality quirks and [...]

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I think Mike’s undecided.  I say that because so often his post titles and opening paragraphs reflect one point of view and his final paragraph seems to reach the entirely opposite conclusion.  He says games have a higher success rate, but just a few paragraphs later questions how pretending to be something you’re not can [...]

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