Life, Love and Online Dating

A few months ago, a friend at work sent me a link to a blog post called “Does This Law Degree Make My Ass Look Fat?” In a nutshell, the author suggested that men really don’t want to date attractive, successful women who have it all together and are self-sufficient.  They require, in her words, [...]

Read Full Post »

Recently, I ran a keyword density analysis on this blog and made an interesting discovery:  though the name of the blog is “Life, Love and Online Dating” and our subject is dating and relationships, somehow Mike and I had gotten 115 posts and about a year into this endeavour without once using the word “love” [...]

Read Full Post »

Mike’s post about losing your identity in a relationship (or defining yourself as a person looking for a relationship) brought to mind something I wouldn’t have previously connected to adult dating relationships.  As my daughter made her way through middle school, I was repeatedly dismayed by the amount of time and energy that teenage girls [...]

Read Full Post »

Mike’s post about communication problems made me laugh.  It wasn’t that I disagreed with him:  for the most part I don’t.  It was the idea of a man suggesting that the “simplest” way to avoid misunderstandings was to ask questions.  He even gave examples, such as “What did you mean by that?”  Quick show of [...]

Read Full Post »

In his most recent post, Mike seems to suggest that we should determine whether or not a man is assertive by what he’s achieved in life.  To some degree, I agree with him:  for instance, he talks a lot about being a good provider, and in my mind a man who is not assertive CAN’T [...]

Read Full Post »

If you don’t already know this about me, it may come as a bit of a surprise:  I’m not a fan of marriage.  I do believe that if you get married, you should be serious about it, and that it’s too easy to get divorced…but the simple fact that it IS so easy to get [...]

Read Full Post »

1. You’re Still Fantasizing about Getting Back with Your Ex. It’s not fair to the person sitting across the table from you, trying to live in that moment with you, if you’re not there.  And it’s pointless, anyway.  Friends may tell you that you have to “get back out there” to get the ex out [...]

Read Full Post »

Sometimes Mike and I seem to be speaking two very different languages, but I don’t think it’s because he uses blue type and I use pink.  I think it’s just that we’re two very different people with very different ideas about things.  Today, I encountered one of those differences that proves that differing views don’t [...]

Read Full Post »

A few days ago, Mike pointed out that no relationship stands a chance if the people in it aren’t motivated to make it work.  Both people.  He’s right, and frankly I’m glad to hear him say it, because you probably all know by now that Mike is no stranger to the belief that he alone [...]

Read Full Post »

Tiffany once told me that physical intimacy is like a placebo, an illusion of real intimacy.   I’ll be the first to admit that I immediately thought she was wrong and just being…girlie.   How much more intimate can you be than being “intimate”?   However, my obsessive brain and habitual recreational thinking lead me [...]

Read Full Post »