Posted in relationships, women on Feb 16th, 2010
A couple of months ago, I met a man I wasn’t particularly interested in. Actually, that happens all the time. What makes this man worth mentioning was that I was pretty interested in the life he was leading. It looked a lot like the life I had in the good days of my marriage, when my family was involved in our community and my husband and I spent a lot of time actively parenting and younger people in the neighborhood came to us for help and advice. In short, it looked a lot like a life I’d already been happy in, a life where I’d found my true heart.
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Mike made some good points in his recent post about “white lies” on dating sites. In fact, many of them relate closely to the issues I raised in my post about the worst idea in online dating history. I would (for once) agree with him completely if it weren’t for one thing: he’s lying.
No, really. [...]
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Oh, come on, Mike. We all know you can read. And most of us are pretty sure you don’t really think that saying sometimes a person is too worn out and stretched too thin to enjoy socializing is the same as promoting the idea that being married is like having an extra child. That’s not [...]
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Posted in dating drama, men, women on Dec 7th, 2009
I heard an advertisement on the radio today that fell in line with what Tiffany is trying to encourage people to believe. The Ad had a woman talking about raising her kids and said something like, “Even the big one I call my husband”. This is part of the common view that I am trying [...]
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Posted in men, relationships, women on Dec 6th, 2009
I’m a little bored with Mike’s efforts to justify clinging to bad relationship after bad relationship (and after reading my email this evening, I think some of you are, too), so I’m going to circle back and address something he mentioned a while back that got lost in the shuffle: the idea that women “should” [...]
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Posted in dating drama, men, relationships, women on Dec 5th, 2009
We make decisions based on the information that we have. When that information is a lie, it skews the decisions that we make. A woman who I had been dating for a couple months told me that she needed space. She said that she was feeling overwhelmed and didn’t know if she wanted [...]
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Posted in dating drama, men, relationships, women on Dec 1st, 2009
That’s a nice spin you put on it, Mike, but you seem to forget that I was there. I did, in fact, “accuse” you of that same kind of suffocating behavior I mentioned in my last post. I think it was the night you called me complaining that the woman who had asked you for [...]
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Posted in dating drama, men, relationships, women on Dec 1st, 2009
Tiffany, this is one of those areas where the memory of those needy…I mean, “Nice” guys that you have dated is so deeply etched into your brain that you project that behavior on other people and can’t see past it. You look for this pattern until you find it. You’ve accused me [...]
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Posted in dating drama, men, relationships, women on Nov 30th, 2009
Mike, I can’t help thinking that maybe what these women you describe want is a man who is like you are as a friend . If you’re like most “nice” guys (and I have reason to believe you are), that person bears little or no resemblance to who you are in a relationship…or even when [...]
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Posted in dating drama, relationships, women on Nov 30th, 2009
A lot of women say that they want a nice guy who treats them well but they don’t mean it. What they really want is that rebel bad boy who will make their life interesting because “If he loves me enough he will change”. It becomes a challenge for them to try to [...]
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