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Tue, 20 Jul 2010 17:00:15 +0000

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Comment on Where there’s no will, there’s no way by Tiffany

Tiffany — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 02:21:58 +0000

This is one of the many reasons that I so favor relationships that begin with friendship and not a “special passion”. Getting to know one another as real human beings not blinded by pheremones creates the foundation for a very different kind of relationship than the superficial impressions we gather based on physical attraction and surface charm.

Comment on Where there’s no will, there’s no way by Jen

Jen — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 18:12:00 +0000

Mike, both my ex husbands were only willing to stay with me as long as I remained perfect, which is why both marriages ended shortly after the birth of my children. Which makes a good point, you have to find the right person too. I ignored red flags about their maturity. Had I been less wrapped up in the newness of things I would have ended both relationships before they got to marriage.

Comment on Where there’s no will, there’s no way by Mike

Mike — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 03:01:14 +0000

Jenny, that’s a good point. Most relationships begin with a special passion that comes simply from the newness of it all. If we have an expectation of that to continue forever, we set ourselves up for failure. I can’t imagine anyone actually saying the words, “I’m willing to stay with you as long as you can remain perfect”. No, that’s not true, I actually can imagine someone saying that.

Comment on Where there’s no will, there’s no way by Jenny Beans

Jenny Beans — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 13:11:00 +0000

The willingness to make it work is really key. Learning to accept that the people we are in relationships aren’t always going to be that perfect person we fell in love with isn’t easy. When we fall in love, we come to expect our relationship to always be that comfortable glove we slipped into, but the truth is it won’t always be that way. And I really think coming to terms with the fact that the one we love won’t always be perfect (and neither will we,) is the key to staying together even when things don’t live up to our expectations. (look at me all talking like I know what I’m saying.)

Comment on Where there’s no will, there’s no way by Jen

Jen — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 13:15:03 +0000

Love, honesty and trust, and a sense of humor, are all important but if there is no willingness to make it work it won’t. There will be times in a marriage when the love is just not there for one partner, there will be times when trust and honesty are also hard to find and anyone who has a newborn knows that sex isn’t always there either but if both partners aren’t willing to ride out the storms they may as well throw in the towel and at least save everyone a lot of wasted time.

Comment on Are Humans Made for Monogamy? by Life, Love and Online Dating » Blog Archive » Where there’s no will, there’s no way

Wed, 14 Jul 2010 17:32:30 +0000

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Comment on Winning the dating discussion lottery by Tiffany

Tiffany — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 16:07:35 +0000

Cardiogirl, this sounds like a total Catch-22: the only people who could really benefit from winning the lottery are too smart to play! That said, those people you see on television who end up in bankruptcy after winning the lottery often haven’t actually lost all of their money. Many get annual payoffs over a 20-year period and get into deep debt the first year or two because they’re able to get outrageous amounts of financing based on their future payments but are in no position to actually make regular payments on those debts. A little patience would solve the whole thing, but even when they’ve mucked it all up, if they’ve gone with the annual distribution it rights itself within a couple of years. It’s only the one-time payment that’s really dangerous.

Comment on Winning the dating discussion lottery by Mike

Mike — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 11:50:18 +0000

Jen, It would be good to find out, right away, that your date had a gambling addiction. You know, BEFORE you loan them money

Cardiogirl, I thought you said you were bad at math. It sounds like you have a good plan or trust issues
But you’re right, many of the lottery winners end up giving away all of their winnings to friends and family.

Comment on Winning the dating discussion lottery by cardiogirl

cardiogirl — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 10:23:34 +0000

Yay! I’m a realist because I sure as hell ain’t good at math. I am so proud to say I’ve never purchased a lottery ticket. Ev. Ah.

No judgment, though. It’s just not workin’ for me. Have you seen those specials on TLC that document how the huge lottery winner loses all of the money in a year or less. Every time, it seems. I would *pretend* I lost all the money and then invest at least 80% of it in bonds (because they’re safe) and then slowly siphon the remaining 20%

I’d make sure to spend $500 or less each month (in addition to our regular expenses) so as not to alert anyone to my riches and then I’d live happily ever after.

The end.