Posted in dating drama on Aug 14th, 2010
“It’s not you, it’s me”. That has the stigma of being a lie used to let someone down easily. But there may be a lot more truth to that classic line than you realize. Breaking up is typically not easy. At least not for the person who is being dumped. The person [...]
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Sometimes Mike and I seem to be speaking two very different languages, but I don’t think it’s because he uses blue type and I use pink. I think it’s just that we’re two very different people with very different ideas about things. Today, I encountered one of those differences that proves that differing views don’t [...]
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Posted in relationships on Aug 3rd, 2010
I wouldn’t say that I have had failure when it comes to dating but a lack of success has me ready to take a time out. I decided to take myself out of the race and focus on myself for a little while. It’s easy to get caught up in the chase and [...]
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In his last post, Mike wrote about people “staying together for the kids”, and how it often doesn’t turn out to be good for the kids or anyone else involved. I agree, but I think his reasoning (though very common) is way off base. This is an issue I’ve had cause to consider in great [...]
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Posted in single parent dating on Jul 20th, 2010
I thought that I was happy. Or, at least, I thought I was putting on a good illusion of being happy. Whichever it was, I didn’t want my kids to know that my marriage was draining the life out of me and leaving just a hollow shell. I nearly had myself fooled and [...]
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Posted in Uncategorized, relationships on Jul 7th, 2010
Tiffany once told me that physical intimacy is like a placebo, an illusion of real intimacy. I’ll be the first to admit that I immediately thought she was wrong and just being…girlie. How much more intimate can you be than being “intimate”? However, my obsessive brain and habitual recreational thinking lead me [...]
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Posted in Uncategorized on Jun 26th, 2010
Something very strange occurred to me as I was leaving the store. I realized that I had just gone into the store, picked up a few items, paid for them and didn’t speak a single word to anyone. With automated checkout lines, this is now possible. Human interaction is slowly becoming a thing of the [...]
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Posted in Mike and Tiffany, relationships on Jun 20th, 2010
It’s true. I tell Mike to cut his losses all the time. It might seem a bit contradictory, because I’m not a fan of the modern mentality that says as soon as the roller coaster passion dies down for five minutes, you should start shopping around for someone more exciting. In theory, I don’t even [...]
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Posted in dating drama, relationships on Jun 12th, 2010
I would assume that over fifty percent of all relationships end. I base this assumption on the divorce rate and the fact that not all relationships lead to marriage. So, at some point, someone decides that they want out. This is a tough area for me with my “I can make it work” [...]
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Posted in dating drama, relationships on Feb 11th, 2010
It’s true that most of us drift along in traffic, not really noting the specifics of most of the cars around us. I’m as guilty of that as Mike apparently is. I can’t agree, though, about those stand-out cars. The cars that “pop” for me on the road aren’t beat up or noisy; the cars [...]
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