Two friends discuss relationships and other mysteries of life.
Posted in dating drama on Feb 26th, 2010
In her recent post, Tiffany posed an interesting question about adults having a “committee” to decide whether they like someone. I’d have to say that I think this occurs as a result of repeated failure in dating and relationships. When we start to lose faith in our own decision making we lean on [...]
Posted in Uncategorized, men, relationships, women on Feb 18th, 2010
What I didn’t know was that full-grown adults–not college kids in their early twenties with one foot in their parents’ homes but thirty-something professionals with careers and condos and supposed lives of their own–were still looking to their friends to hold up numerical scores while their dates “performed”.
Posted in relationships, women on Feb 16th, 2010
A couple of months ago, I met a man I wasn’t particularly interested in. Actually, that happens all the time. What makes this man worth mentioning was that I was pretty interested in the life he was leading. It looked a lot like the life I had in the good days of my marriage, when my family was involved in our community and my husband and I spent a lot of time actively parenting and younger people in the neighborhood came to us for help and advice. In short, it looked a lot like a life I’d already been happy in, a life where I’d found my true heart.
Posted in Uncategorized, dating drama, gender differences, relationships on Jan 17th, 2010
So, you find yourself attracted to someone and you want to make you feelings known. But how do you do that without being insulting? I’m not talking about just a sexual attraction. I mean, for whatever reason, you find yourself drawn to someone. It could be from something they said, the way they smile or [...]
Posted in dating services, online dating, relationships on Jan 14th, 2010
Not even for employees. Mike’s recent analogy between interviewing for a prospective business partner or employee and “interviewing” for a prospective life partner is apt. Unfortunately, it overlooks one very important point: interviewing doesn’t work. You know that I don’t believe interview-style dating works, but now I’m going one step further. Traditional interviewing doesn’t work [...]
Posted in dating drama, relationships on Dec 28th, 2009
Anyone who has a “wish list” for a potential partner is asking for trouble. I’ve said before that I think the biggest problem with “finding love” in today’s society is that we try to shop for mates like we shop for a new dress or a juicy grapefruit. Looking for love, in my book, is [...]
Posted in dating drama, men, women on Dec 7th, 2009
I heard an advertisement on the radio today that fell in line with what Tiffany is trying to encourage people to believe. The Ad had a woman talking about raising her kids and said something like, “Even the big one I call my husband”. This is part of the common view that I am trying [...]
Posted in men, relationships, women on Dec 6th, 2009
I’m a little bored with Mike’s efforts to justify clinging to bad relationship after bad relationship (and after reading my email this evening, I think some of you are, too), so I’m going to circle back and address something he mentioned a while back that got lost in the shuffle: the idea that women “should” [...]
Posted in dating drama, men, relationships, women on Dec 1st, 2009
Tiffany, this is one of those areas where the memory of those needy…I mean, “Nice” guys that you have dated is so deeply etched into your brain that you project that behavior on other people and can’t see past it. You look for this pattern until you find it. You’ve accused me [...]
Posted in dating services, gender differences, men, online dating, women on Nov 25th, 2009
I mentioned in an earlier post that, despite my misgivings, I’d registered for an online dating service last month. I was a bit dismayed by many of the messages I received, but there was one in particular that struck me immediately and has become a sort of shorthand for all of the inappropriate comments strange [...]
