Life, Love and Online Dating

I think Mike’s undecided.  I say that because so often his post titles and opening paragraphs reflect one point of view and his final paragraph seems to reach the entirely opposite conclusion.  He says games have a higher success rate, but just a few paragraphs later questions how pretending to be something you’re not can [...]

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I may not be as right as I normally am. We have been doing a lot of discussion over online dating profiles and the way that we should or shouldn’t be presenting ourselves. I think I may be guilty of doing a little white lying on my profile as well. Yup, I’m not actually a D cup. Of course, I’m joking…I actually am but size doesn’t matter. But the truth is that I have been painting a less than accurate portrait of myself.

The pictures I post online are carefully selected to portray what I THINK women want but my thinking may be wrong.

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Mike made some good points in his recent post about “white lies” on dating sites.  In fact, many of them relate closely to the issues I raised in my post about the worst idea in online dating history.  I would (for once) agree with him completely if it weren’t for one thing: he’s lying.
No, really.  [...]

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Advice about constructing an “effective” online dating profile abounds on the Internet, and the concept leaves me scratching my head just a bit.  So does the pervasive idea that “everyone” posts only his or her best pictures.  I strongly suspect that I’m in the minority on this one, but I can’t see the upside in [...]

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I mentioned in an earlier post that, despite my misgivings, I’d registered for an online dating service last month.  I was a bit dismayed by many of the messages I received, but there was one in particular that struck me immediately and has become a sort of shorthand for all of the inappropriate comments strange [...]

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Tiffany,
I can’t help but notice that some people have a difficult time making decisions in life if they are faced with too many choices.  They delay the decision making process to carefully weight the pros and cons, putting off making a final decision in case something better comes along.  Ultimately what ends up happening is [...]

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That crossing out rules thing Mike mentioned in his last post is exactly what I was talking about earlier this week when I suggested that maybe a lot of us had a tendency to give new relationships more of a chance than they deserved.  The effort to make it work moves into the foreground, stealthily [...]

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Brat.
I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with meeting for coffee, and you know it. I’m talking about the significant number of men (maybe women do this, too–I never see their profiles, so I don’t know) who explicitly announce that they want to meet for coffee so as not to waste their time on someone [...]

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It seems to me that if I were truly “jaded” I would have a more pessimistic outlook of online dating. I wouldn’t be so quick to point out that wanting to meet for a cup of coffee is superficial and shallow. Actually, it sounds like a good approach to me (No, that’s not [...]

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Mike, you sound so jaded.  It makes me kind of sad.  I begin to fear that you may be one of those people who notes on his online dating profile (nope, I’ve never peeked) that he’d like to meet for a quick cup of coffee first so that you can avoid “wasting each other’s time” [...]

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